Mother Monolouge Midwife/Unassisted

We are mothers

We are mothers whose babies were both born at home

I labored with support my midwife was there

I was mostly alone I was unassited

We were naked and primal as mother bears

It happened so fast

Here's his feet

Here's her head

I moaned and I groaned

I monologued whiled I circled the rug like an old mother dog

We had safe healthy babies

We Are Mothers

Mother Monolouge Waterbirth/Landbirth

We are Mothers

My baby was full term

My baby was premature

We birthed at the hosptial

My baby was head down

My baby was breech

We had vaginal births

I labored naturally

I had PROM and Pitocin


We didn't use pain medication

I had and midwife

I had and OB


We hardly pushed

We had healthy girls

We Are Mothers

Mother Monolouge Natural/ Epidural

WE Are Mothers

I was surrounded by love

I was surrounded by medicine

We were surrounded by family

I endured the pain willingly

I had bad pain


We were empowered by our births

I felt powerful

I felt helpless lost and trapped

We had vaginal births

I enjoyed the silence of no machines

I was on someone else's schedule

We bonded with our babies

Mother Monolouge Hospital birth /Homebirth

WE ARE MOTHERS

I didn't feel comfortable in the hospital gown

I was NAKED

We were watching the clock

I was medicated

I was empowered

We felt acceptance

I was told what I needed instead of being asked

I accomplished a VBAC

We felt Release

My baby was taken from me

I caught my baby myself

We were overjoyed to meet our child

We were not completely taken care of

We were glad to be home

We Are Mothers

Red Tent Mother Monologues

We had a wonderful Red Tent at the BOLD events. We celebrated being mothers. We partnered with other mothers that had different birth experiences and found out through our differences we had also had simularities. The women came up with some beautiful monologues that were performed and I thought I'd share...

GFOM attends DONA conference

Thank you to DONA International who invited GA Friends of Midwives to set up a booth at the 15th Annual DONA International Conference in Atlanta this weekend! Today I collected about ten more signatures from Georgia woman who want to donate their time and energy to the GFOM cause. I talked with countless doulas, a couple of midwives and even a mom or two who had a homebirth in Georgia several years ago about GFOM's efforts to increase access to midwives in the home setting. We shared our outrage about how women's choices in childbirth are dwindling away as now even nurse midwives are struggling to practice even inside hospitals! Keynote speakers this year included Dr. Bob Sears, Penny Simkin (author of Pregnancy, Childbirth & the Newborn), Marshall & Phyllis Klaus (authors of Your Amazing Newborn) and Suzanne Arms (author of Immaculate Deception). I attended a breakout session given by Suzanne Arms with http://www.birthingthefuture.com/ called "Birth & the Mother-Baby Bond." Suzanne's talk was so powerful, many of us were moved to tears as we heard her say things like, "Every time a baby is born, there is another chance we have to turn the missles around and end the war."
Is homebirth not the way to end the war on women's bodies, the war on medicalized childbirth, the war on skyrocketing healthcare costs that has not much to show for it but sicker babies and mothers? We who support legal access to homebirth midwives, we who give birth at home are the ones who are truly protecting the normalcy of birth. As Suzanne said, we are one quarter of one percent who are protecting the normalcy of birth. And with each normal birth, we pass on a legacy to our children of normal birth. Even as the culture we live in supports medicalized childbirth, our culture cannot survive if we continue to treat mothers and babies the way they are treated in a medical setting.
Those of us who choose homebirth do so for a myriad of reasons. Perhaps one of the most crucial reasons is so that we can stay with our babies after they're born. At a homebirth, there is no separation, no meddling, no unnecessary anything. In fact I spoke with a CPM today who spoke of the husband of one of her recent clients who gave birth at home after having given birth in a hosptial the first time around. The dad wondered why the midwife didn't take the baby from the mother to measure it, weigh it, blah blah blah. When was she going to do all that stuff? In the hospital, it had happened immediately. The midwife reassured him that it would all be done in time, but there was no reason to meddle and that the most important thing she could do at that moment was to keep the baby with his mama. Period. It's the simplist thing really, that has the most significant impact on that baby's feeling of security and that mother's feeling of empowerment. I can meet my baby's needs. Touch it. Sniff it. Taste it. I am enough for my baby. I am exactly what it needs.

Look for a list of ways you can volunteer to help GFOM! We still need postage for mailing out invitations to GA midwives to the High Tea during BOLD next month. We still need acvocacy stuff to sell- t shirts, bumber stickers, etc. We need you to come help us set up for an event or stay late and help us clean up. For more on BOLD, go to http://www.boldatlanta.org/ See you there!

Henci Goer event- a HUGE success!

GFOM Core Group Volunteers:

Rachel, Reid, Jennifer, Natalie, & Krista (not pictured)

http://www.hencigoer.com/

Henci Goer at the book signing last night.

We had over 50 people attend Henci Goer's talk at Horizons School tonight! Wow! What a crowd of expectant moms and dads, doulas, midwives & apprentices, a chiropractor, friends, grandmothers and a few of the cutest babies ever! Henci spoke on the research supporting the safety of VBACs, despite what most mothers are being told these days. I did not know that amniocentesis carries higher risk for the baby than VBAC! Are our expectant mothers being told this?! Furthermore- what hospitals are flat out denying women amnios?!

Have you ever considered that VBAC is not a procedure? And VBAC success depends mostly on midwife or physician management of the VBAC mom. More times than not it's not the woman's body that can't give birth when planning a VBAC- but the mismanaged care she receives from her provider! Denial of food & drink during labor, continuous EFM, inductions (especially Misoprostol) , epidurals, supine & directed pushing all interfere with VBAC success- not the woman's body's fundamental ability to give birth to her baby!


So why all the meddling? You only get one guess- physicians' fear of getting thier pants sued off. So what they offer now for the most part are what Henci called 'Cinderella VBACs.' You can have a VBAC if you don't go past 38 weeks, if your baby's under 7.5lbs, if you don't have a freckle on the upper left quadrant of your right thigh. This is just leaving fewer options for our mothers and causing more dangerous unnecessary meddling in the normal process of giving birth.


GA Friends of Midwives is working to build community so we can change the birth climate in our state to make it more mother-baby friendly. Wherever a mom wants to give birth. Give her access to providers who practice physiologic, evidence-based care instead of what Henci called GOBST care (Good Ol' Boys Sittin' around a Table). One way is best for mothers and babies (and families' pocket books and insurance companies), the other simply best for pysicians' pocket books.

Thank you to Horizons School (http://www.horizonsschool.com/) for donating the venue for tonight, to our volunteers: Reid (for securing the space and organizing us all), Natalie (for handling all ticket sales tonight), Rachel (for providing refreshments), Anna (for handing out flyers with baby-n-sling). Thank you to the Cheeky Maiden from http://www.cheekymaidensoap.com/ for donating a thank you gift for Henci. And to all of the Georgia midwives who came out to tonight's event! You are why there even is a GFOM!

Up next: BOLD event sept. 18-21 http://www.boldatlanta.org/ Stay tuned for ways you can volunteer!